Getting ready for the holidays often comes with stress and home and in the workplace, from meeting deadlines to saving money. Relationship expert Dr. Patty Ann Tublin answers your questions.
Colby from New Windsor: “I am already getting totally stressed out anticipating all the end of the year reports I have to complete. Can you help me handle my work stress better?”
Dr. Patty Ann: “Colby, thanks for a great question. You may be surprised to know that approximately 80% of Americans are stressed out at work! That is an incredible number.
Here are 5 elatively easy, practical and highly effective ways to reduce stress at work.
1. If at all possible , know what work activities set off your stress triggers – unexpected deadlines, giving presentations, etc.? Knowing WHAT stresses you is the FIRST step towards managing your stress.
2. Recognize your physiological symptoms that clue you into the fact that you are becoming stressed. For example, do your palms get sweaty, does your heart begin to race, do you hyperventilate (breathe fast) or hold your breathe (don’t breathe at all).
3. Focus on your breathing – make a conscious effort to breathe deeply.
4. Positive Self-talk – talk yourself off the ledge. Chances are national security isn’t riding on your job. I am not saying that your work is not important – it is – and you should take pride in your work – whatever you d0 – but the world is not going to come to an end based upon your work.
5. See out a work colleague who can either help you with your work and/or keep everything in perspective.”
Elizabeth from Manchester: “My husband drives me crazy spending money on stuff we don;t need. He really buys soo much junk! What can I do to get him to stop spending frivolously?”
Dr. Patty Ann: “Thank you Elizabeth for another great question! Here is the short answer to your question. I think you and your husband need to have a serious conversation about what your financial goals are as a family. And make sure you are both in agreement – perhaps you think your husband agrees with your financial goals. but maybe he really doesn’t. Assuming you have already established a budget for both discretionary and non-discretionary items. remind your husband that every time he spends money on these “frivolous” items, he is spending money that could go toward other things – like a nice vacation or early retirement.
As a side note Elizabeth, it might be helpful to know that many times financial issues in marriage is more about power and control than it is about money – something for you to think about!”
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