The new year may be inspiring you to strengthen your relationships both at home and in the workplace.
Relationship expert Dr. Patty Ann Tublin joined Good Morning Connecticut for her first Tuesday tips of advice for 2019.
Our first question comes from Bryn in Hartford who asks “I really really want to get promoted this year at work Can you give me some tips on how I can achieve this goal? I already know I need to work hard.”
Here are some tips to help you achieve your goal from Dr. Tublin.
1. Build relationships – strategic relationships. The operative word here is “strategic”. Yes, it is important to have authentic relationships with everyone however, you want to make sure your relationships with the decision-makers are strong. And the decision-makers might not necessarily be the person with the title. For example, many Executive Assistants have a strong positive relationship with their executive bosses. And again, these relationships you build must be authentic. Most people can smell a phony a mile away.
2. Volunteer more at work. It is the right thing to do to give back AND it may give you access to the decision-makers referenced in tip #1. AND voluntarily offer to help others with their work – even if it is not your job.
3.Positive Attitude – no one wants to work with, let alone promote a negative person or the person that always has an excuse for why they can’t get things done. Being Positive is Being Promotable.
4.Learn, learn,l learn – acquire new knowledge and skillsets that your company needs to grow and move forward.
Jennifer in East Haven asks “so, my husband gave me an expensive bracelet that I really do not like and I want to return. Should I tell him I want to return or just keep it so I don’t hurt his feelings?”
Dr. Tublin answers:
“Yes, it is the thought that counts however, the more expensive the gift is, the more you probably should return it. Here’s my suggestion – have a conversation with her husband and tell him how much you really appreciate his gift and thoughtfulness attached to it. However, since it is expensive you would prefer to return it and get something else b/c you really won’t wear the bracelet he gave you and it’s silly to not have something you can wear and enjoy and think of him as you wear it. ASK him if he would come with you to pick out a replacement so he feels that he is still part of the gift giving process. Hope this helps.”
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