It’s the Wild West of parenting and no it’s not a scene from “Bad Moms.”
Recently, a “New York Times” opinion piece sparked a heated debate online with author Kim Brooks writing “we now live in a country where it is seen as abnormal or even criminal to allow children to be away from direct adult supervision, even for a second.”
Just ask Julie Taylor who says “mommy shaming” is very much real. In 2016, she left her three daughters in her minivan while she grabbed coffee.
“I saw the police officer walk up to my car and start questioning my children. And I thought nothing of it until my kid started to cry. And at that point, I walked out, and he turned on me, asking me where I was,” said Taylor.
Taylor who works as a senior public defender in Illinois stood her ground.
“He accused me of abandoning my children and I laughed at him. He had picked on the wrong mother because I actually know my rights,” said Taylor.
Researchers at University of California Irvine have studied just how people reacted to parents leaving their children unattended, using short descriptions of situations and asking participants to estimate how much danger the child was in.
“What has changed seems to be social norms, moral judgments, the idea that a child should never be left alone and someone who does that is negligent or abusive,” said Brooks.
In Brook’s article, she says no mom is safe from this criticism.
“We’re contemptuous of lazy, poor mothers. We’re contemptuous of distracted working mothers. We’re contemptuous of selfish rich mothers,” it reads.
Something that Taylor feels is a slippery slope and needs to change.
“We need to fight back against this judgment, this shaming of mothers. It’s got to stop and it stops with us.” said Taylor.